i am studying the power of suggestion, NLP, and basic hypnosis. my questions are: #1, can you hypnotize someone who already knows you and your speech patterns/mannerisms (since you have to fake confidence, among other things)?
#2, would anything about my appearance make it more difficult to hypnotize people? i’ve noticed that most hypnotists are men who command presence and respect, and i wonder if being moderately attractive, young, female, or shorter than my “subjects” would get in the way of controlling their complete focus. please answer only if you have experience or knowledge to offer.
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As for #1, yes. Many of the people I have hypnotized are people that I have known. While patterns/mannerism can be important, I would put rapport building *MUCH MUCH* higher on the list. Confidence comes with practice. I remember my first time I was nervous as all heck, but now I barely even think about it.
#2, What your describing with the way people dress, etc. this are examples of creating the expectation (or setting the stage). Creating the expectation is important. Why do you think top level business people all wear “power suits”? It creates expectation that they know what they are talking about, and one should listen to what they have to say. While it can be effective, remember everyone doesn’t necessarily respond the same way. I’m sure everyone can think of a time where someone dressed in a “power suit” (think: obnoxious salesperson) and you were just turned off completely.
The other thing to remember, is you need to work with your client. I tend to use client rather than subject, since subject tends to be cold/clinical and that they are being “subjected to” hypnosis. That not the typical expectation I want to create. Again, depends on the particular needs of the client.
As for questioning “if being a moderately attractive, young, female, or shorter than my “subjects” could get in the way of controlling their complete focus.” Ask yourself this.. Are you creating your own expectation that this will be a determining factor? I know many hypnotists that are all and none of the factors you listed (and everything in between) that are successful.
Make sure your and your clients expectations are realistic. Expecting to be able to “control their complete focus” is not realistic. If they don’t want to focus, they are not going to focus. PERIOD. The question is: As a hypnotist/NLPer, how to you best facilitate an environment that will assist them to focus better? It’s a collaborative process. I’m not sure the exact environment that you are planning to work in, but that can make a difference.
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